Have you ever been in love? Have you ever thought you had met your soul mate, life partner or twin flame?
Although I have been searching for a long time I felt that I had finally found my life partner. It was the most amazing love I had ever experienced. Then she left…
At first I went into victim mode and began to beat myself up for what I could have done differently or thought of all the things she was wrong about. Then, I remembered that “I create my entire reality.” The reason I choose to believe this is if something happens “to me” there is nothing I can do. However, “if I create everything“, than I can look for the reasons why I am creating this experience. This perspective empowers me to change my life regardless of the circumstances that happen to me in my life.
Here are the tools that I use to help me transform difficult situations to empowering ones. Here is my process~
Overcoming Triggers-
Since I believe that I create my reality when something happens that upsets me or “triggers” me I believe that I am calling this into my life to love that aspect in myself. I believe that the only reason I am “triggered” is because I am judging that aspect in myself. Otherwise, I would not be able to see it. If I can see it and I have already been through that pattern than I have compassion because I know how it feels to be in that situation and I have already been through that experience.
For example, have you ever heard the example of the man on the train who had 2 children running around. The guy across from him Don, was getting so annoyed and “triggered” that this man would just let his kids run around. Don started to get more and more annoyed or “triggered” as the train went down the tracks. He kept thinking about how disrespectful the man was to the people around him and how could he be so inconsiderate. “All he does is look at the ground and “pretend” like he does not see his kids running around.” Finally, Don could not take it anymore and we walked up to the man and said, “Please take care of your children you are being disrespectful and inconsiderate to the rest of us that have to share this train with you?” The man looked up at Don with a sad but strong look and said, “I am sorry Sir, but we are on the way home from the hospital and my wife just died. My children looked so happy that I thought I would let them play while I took this time to figure out how to tell them their mother is in Heaven.” Don was “triggered” because this situation brought up his own judgments on himself about an area of his life that he is disrespectful and inconsiderate. I believe every person is always trying to do their best with their current tools, beliefs, patterns and model of the world. So, perhaps when we are to a point where we love ourselves unconditionally, we will love every person on the planet with unconditional love.
Here is the process to follow to transform your worst day and make it your best day!
Step 1: Identify what was the main trigger that bothers you about the situation.
Ex. In my situation I felt that my ex was not committed.
Step 2: Identify where you are showing up that way in your life.
Ex. Ultimately, my soul craves the self-development industry. I needed to be speaking/coaching and helping transform lives and instead I was back in a corporate job.
Step 3: Understand that the reason you are attracting the situation is to allow you to heal that judgment in yourself.
Ex. So, upon this realization I decided to take massive action that day to put myself back into the self development industry. I realized that I would continue to attract un-comitted potential partners in my life until I was living my purpose. **After further study in masculine/feminine aspects I have learned that ultimately the true feminine’s role is to constantly test the masculine to ensure survival. So, ultimately I take full responsibility for not being enough of a man and stepping up and living my purpose.
Conclusion: So even though if appeared at the time that I had lost my life partner the way I dealt with the situation gave me empowering beliefs to do something to change my life for the better. Ultimately, I decided that my life purpose and calling is to be a speaker/coach and author. So, I decided to serve under the best in the world, Tony Robbins. In less than I month I became 1 of only 5 national speakers for Tony Robbins. Tony has been my hero since my dad used to play his tapes in the car during hunting trips when I was 6. So, what seemed like my worst day was actually my greatest catalyst for growth and transformation. How many times do circumstances happen in our lives and we fall victim to “external” circumstances. Since WE did not do it then WE have no way of solving it. What if every person on the planet took full responsibility for creating their entire reality and everything that happened. What kind of world would we live in? This is where I believe we are heading. To a world of peace, compassion, unconditional love and forgiveness.
